When was the last time you felt completely free?

Think about a moment or a period of your life when you didn’t care about what others think about you. You didn’t plan a lot on what to do next in your life. You were just experiencing what comes to you. Was there a time like this in your life? I hope there is one that you remember.

If you found a moment of your life where you felt free, my next question is, why did you stop being free? What happened that you were changed? Also how did you become free at that moment? What did you do differently than before? Most importantly, how did you feel when you were completely free? How can you explain that freedom and where did you feel the freedom in your body?

I hope you have a memory in your mind now. If not that’s another story for another day but I promise I’ll write that too. For now, let’s get into our topic of how to be fully free by answering those questions that I listed above. While you are doing the exercise for you, I’ll be an example to help you.

You might be surprised about my last time feeling free story, but here it is. It was over 8 years ago. A side note here I am asking you this “When was the last time you felt completely free” pay attention to the word completely ok. You might have felt hundreds of times free maybe but completely free is something very very unique and slightly hard for humans. Ok, let’s continue. My moment of feeling completely free was when I sat down in the plane to go to Los Angeles in 2016. Before I get into my other questions, I am hoping you are also taking notes for yourself. So that we can feel completely free after this blog. (We can start working on it. )

I picked the time of me sitting in the plane and going to the unknown because I was not thinking about what others think about me. I was not thinking how it would turn out this move to another country without knowing anyone and speaking the language. I was not worried. I didn’t feel attached to the country (Turkey) I was leaving even though my mom and dad were there. I didn't have a boyfriend so that was a plus to not feel attached. I quit my job months ago so I didn’t have that attachment. I only had my clothes and a few things that I would need, so I wasn’t attached to any of the other material things I left in my home. I have almost no responsibilities rather than taking care of my life at that moment. I was excited and completely free to welcome what’s coming into my life. I hope you get the idea of feeling completely free from this example. Maybe yours will be more complete than mine or a little less but it also depends on a person when you feel completely free.

Let’s continue with other questions I asked at the beginning. I will write and answer them all here. You can do the same for you.

After finding the completely free moment, my next question was, why did you stop being free? Good one, right? Let’s get honest here then.

Why did I stop being free? I added responsibilities in my life. For example, I do have a company so I am responsible for my clients. I moved back to Turkey and am living with my parents so I am responsible for them. I got engaged so I am not acting completely free because I do have to think about my fiance and his family. Maybe not 24/7 but most of the time I do pay attention to how I behave in certain positions. I live in a country where you kind of have to follow certain social norms because you might have issues with people especially for government issues or in public places. So this (why) question is not a blaming question, it is for you to be aware of your choices. Everything is a choice in life and we live by owning our choices.

What happened that you were changed?

So what happened to me that I was changed? My needs and desires were changed. I decided to have a settled life by having a company. I wanted to become financially free. And during the pandemic, I decided to be with my loved ones and I moved back to Turkey. In life we have some moments where we feel different than how we used to feel and we make decisions. Sometimes life throws a difficult situation to us like the pandemic and we have to make a big decision that changes us.

Also how did you become free at that moment?

How did I become free at that moment? My moment was sitting in a plane by myself without having any responsibilities or thinking about what others think about me. The feeling I had was a mix of a couple events that happened before actually (quitting my job, not having the responsibility, moving to another country…etc.)

What did you do differently than before?

What did I do differently than before? I stopped being worried about my future, I let go, I trust that The Universe has my back, I focused on the excitement part. I was taking one step at a time.

Most importantly, how did you feel when you were completely free?

How did I feel when I was completely free? The feeling was amazing, it is really hard to explain with words. But if I have to tell you something here, then I felt so light and brave at that moment.

How can you explain that freedom and where did you feel the freedom in your body?

How can I explain that freedom and where did I feel the freedom in my body? I kind of explained this in the last question so you don’t have to go much deeper in here if you don’t want to. I will say I felt the freedom mostly in my chest. My breathing was different than usual. I was feeling almost every cell in my body.

How do you feel now by doing this exercise? It is important for us to sit and think from time to time in our lives and see what has changed. Now you know how and when you feel fully free in your life. Knowing the how and the when is huge to recall that feeling we want to feel. You can kind of evaluate your life and start making changes if you want to.

There is no right or wrong lifestyle for us. Everybody writes their own story and so do you. But if you feel like something is missing in your life then you can change it. If you want more guidance and support, I am here. Email me burcu@joyyburcu.com and let’s have a conversation.

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