What are you listening to these days? What are you reading these days? What are you watching these days?

What about YOU? Do you listen to yourself? How about your feelings?

We live in a world where everybody is so busy with other people’s lives or what they think about them. How often do you do something just because you wanted to and do it by yourself without letting anyone know about it?

Do you ever sit with yourself and really ask yourself how you are doing? Or are you pretending to be ok all the time? Sharing happy photos on instagram but crying inside? When was the last time you were true to yourself and others around you? Do you remember when were you authentic with how you felt?

How are you REALLY?

Please sit down with this question because it’s important, because YOU are important.

Why and when have we become so afraid of looking inside of what’s going on within us? We’ve become so focused on the external world when everything truly happens internally.

Should we blame society for this or the unstoppable technology that has been changing so quickly every single moment?

I know so many people who have amazing instagram pages, stories where you thought they were so successful and super happy but when I talk to them in person they are so desperate and unhappy. Not only social media, but also the looks that people have these days. You can see someone well dressed, looks so pretty or elegant but when she/he starts speaking you hear so many bad words and so much negativity comes through them. Crazy as it sounds…

What kind of world are we living in right now?

Silence…

I have been reading the "Atlas of the Heart” book by Brene Brown" and I love how she explains every emotion that we experience. She discusses how we struggle to express our feelings. I could say, we are like the beginners of our emotions. We have no idea what’s going on internally but we call ourselves the expert of showing the world how great we are. And you can be a beginner of your emotions if you really look at them, if you sit with your feelings and experience them.

Why is it important to feel the feelings?

Because YOU are a human! Haha sorry, I had to say that. We are human and that’s the reason we should be knowing who we are and how we are doing in order for us to fulfill our lives.

I am not saying that it is easy work to do to be with yourself and really accept what comes through. When you go deep within your feelings, not always good comes through. What comes through are your heartbreaks, anxiety, fears, and anger.. all the uncomfortable feelings and of course there also will be good feelings as well such as; peace, happiness, joy, excitement, blessings…etc. But without spending time with yourself, you'll never truly experience those positive feelings. At least you’ll not be able to feel them truly. You can just kind of feel them or you think you feel them like the examples I shared of the instagram posts and stories about people who act happy.

How to sit with your feelings?

I’m proud to introduce you to the tool that I have been teaching people who are from all over the world and who have had a huge impact in their personal and professional lives since they started practicing it.

It’s called The Coffee o’clock (A.K.A. YOU Time).

Here is how it works:

• First coffee! Yes, first you need to grab a cup of coffee or tea or even hot water.
• Then, go to a silent place which can be in your home or anywhere you can be just with yourself.
• Sit with your hot drink.
• Hold and Feel the warmth of it.
• Take a deep breath in and exhale.
• Close your eyes.
• Continue breathing.
• Take one sip from your drink.
• Feel the drink go through your body.
• Then think about what you are grateful for.
• Continue breathing.
• Embody the feeling and create more blessings, visualize and think of your future accomplishments and dreams.
• Feel it in every cell of your body that all have become true!
• Take one more deep breath in.
• Open your eyes.
• Write down what you felt, what you saw, what you heard.. on a piece of paper.

This is the simplest and easiest way I could put here on writing of this deep exercise but if you want to go deeper and share your experience with me. Schedule a call with me here to talk more about how we can unearth your authenticity and create the life you always wanted to live!

My invitation and vision to you is to be with YOU more, be unapologetic of who YOU are and really own your true self to create more of what you want in your life.

If you want to receive more inspiration, you can follow me on instagram. If you are the person who likes to watch, then you can watch the newest inspirational videos every Saturday on my YouTube Channel. If you just like to listen to some life tips from me and my international guests who share their expertise to evolve your life on my podcast called The Coffee o’clock Podcast.

Until next time, stay with Joyy!

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